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13 tips to survive Thanksgiving
1. Don’t come with expectations. Just show up and be with people as they are, not how they should be or where you would like them to be.
2. Your imagination was your first toy, and it still can be.
3. Make believe you’re an anthropologist observing a strange tribe. Take notes!
4. Had enough to eat? Say no thanks and stand firm. Hide your plate. Or give a very detailed description about what happened the last time you ate too much Thanksgiving dinner. Gross.
5. Pretend you’re a hostage waiting for your release. How much money for your ransom? Who should pay? Maybe you’ll manufacture a wild escape. How should your jailers be punished? Let your imagination run wild.
6. Okay, so Aunt Rose never stops talking and has no manners. You’re not going to changeher- you’re stuck. You can sit and steam and ruin things even more for yourself, or you can find ways to dampen your burning fuse. Maybe Aunt Rose wants to be interviewed. Maybe you’re a TV host. Maybe one of you is Oprah in disguise. Take turns, even if Aunt Rose can’t.
7. Try deep breathing. Breathe out and make the room bigger.
8. Tell jokes to yourself, and to anyone else who might have a sense of humor. Keep the mean remarks private though.
9. Remember–all the spiteful things your nasty cousin says tell you lots more about HIM than about you, and you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to. He’s pushy? You’re kung fu master. Let the negative energy flow right past you and back at him. BAM!
10. Try not to leave your body, if you can. Ground yourself by feeling your feet on the floor, your hands in your lap or on the table. Breathe. Focus you attention on something beautiful.
11. If that doesn’t work, how about an out of body experience? How do things look when you’re floating up on the ceiling? Wave to the folks down below. Can anyone see you?
12. Pretend you’re an invisible star or king or Buddha or angel. Knives, sticks, stones, not even nasty words can hurt you.
13. Act like you’re surrounded by Buddhas in disguise, and honor everyone.
Remember- therapy gives you tools you can use for self-defense as well as self-understanding.
Happy Thanksgiving
Friday, November 12, 2010
Slow Down! You're Late!
If you want to read more, please turn to:
http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/object-relations-anxiety-rushing-self-harm/#
Namaste,
http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/object-relations-anxiety-rushing-self-harm/#
Namaste,
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